I’ve come across a lot of people that wonder why they’re single, or wonder why something has taken place in their relationships and usually they say “I don’t understand, I’m a good girlfriend/boyfriend”.
Are you?
How do you know?
I’m sure you feel as if you are the best boyfriend or girlfriend in the world but if you really take a minute and look at everything as if it were other people and not you, would you still think you were a good significant other?
First of all nobody is perfect and everyone has flaws. The problem comes from people not being able to face their flaws and shortcomings head on and try to fix them for the sake of the relationship. In my opinion if the relationship is worth it then you would do whatever is needed to make it works, but that’s just my opinion.
In a relationship you should always remember “What you won’t do someone else will”
That should be enough right there to make you want to be the best you could be, but sadly it isn’t. Some people don’t think about that at all… They are just worried about themselves until it’s too late.
I feel that as a girlfriend I should be my man’s number one fan. So whatever it is that he’s doing I should be his main supporter. If he plays sports, I should be at the games cheering him on. If he wants to go back to school, I should be the one assuring him that he can. Hell, if he said he wants to be the President of the United States, I’m gonna be right there and push him towards that.
When he’s going through something, I should be the one he can come talk to. There shouldn’t be anything he can’t tell me. I should respect him as a person and as my man, and not sit quietly while someone else disrespects him because that is my man and what does that say about me if I allow someone to do that?
Because if I don’t someone else is always in the cuts just waiting to take my spot. Someone is willing to do the things I won’t do to make my man happy.
If he wants to watch football, I’m going to watch football (not a good example since I love football LOL), if he wants to do something that I’m not really interested in I’m going to do it because that is gonna make him happy, and it’s not gonna kill me to spend some time doing what he likes. Seeing the smile on his face will make it all worth it.
That’s what you have to do in a relationship. You have to sacrifice and compromise for the other person and they should be doing the same for you. It should not be all about you or all about them. One person shouldn’t be making all of the compromises.
If you can’t do these little things to make your significant other happy then leave them. They aren’t even worth it to you, why are you there!? If you stay, don’t get mad at them when they start talking to someone other than you since you won’t talk to them, when they go on a date with someone else since you won’t take them on a date, When they start to call someone else before you when making plans for lunch or the weekend if you never want to do any of those things. How could you get mad at them for that! YOU didn’t want to do those things remember? It wasn’t important to you so you passed, that doesn’t mean they still don’t want to do it, doesn’t mean they still don’t need to talk. So they’re going to and that’s when that person that has been quietly waiting on the sideline for you to mess up is going to come and take your place.
They are going to make sure they do all those little things because they already know where you messed up. They’re going to put that smile on your man/woman’s face, the smile YOU were supposed to put there.
Don’t get mad though. Honestly you should be happy, you didn’t want to do it anyway. Right?
I don’t think its that hard to be a good boyfriend or girlfriend. It goes back to when your mother used to tell you to treat people the way you want to be treated.
Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want someone to do to you. All it takes is a little consideration for the other persons feelings and needs. If they are being a good boy/girlfriend, don’t you feel like you owe it to them?
But again, this is just my opinion…
hmmm makes alot of sense.. thanks =)
Well there isnt much to say you was def on point when you said what you won’t do someone else will…people should never take that lightly because once you get someonethere for you emotionally its a wrap for who is the bf/gf. Kudos!!!