When I was in junior high and high school it was really easy to know when you were in a relationship and also when you broke up. A boy would ask if you wanted to be his girlfriend you would say yes and tadaa, I now pronounce you boyfriend and girlfriend.
Now that I’m grown I realize it’s not as easy knowing when there is a relationship or if you guys are just “friends” . I’ve noticed a lot of females including some of my friends who think they are in this loving relationship not realizing they aren’t even the girlfriend, they’re just a jump-off. I’ve decided to list a few obvious signs that you’re a jump off. If you think of any, feel free to leave a comment.
1. You can’t spend the night at his house.
Depending on how old you are and how long you’ve been “dating” this guy there shouldn’t be any reason why you can’t spend the night at your “boyfriends” house sometimes. Especially if he stays the night at yours. This should tell you that not only are you not the only girl but there may be a real girlfriend somewhere that may possibly have the key or make frequent unannounced visits to his house. He doesn’t want to take the chance of getting caught up.
2. You don’t know any of his real best friends and his family doesn’t know about you.
A lot of guys have best friends they grew up with. The ones that he will be cool with forever no matter how far apart they are. These are friends he would do anything for and always come through. Then he has the guys he met from work or just hanging out. Those are the guys that he’s really cool with and spends a lot of his free time hanging out with. THOSE friends may know about you, but not the childhood friends. Which are also the people who are going to be best men and groomsmen in a wedding if one was to take place. If those guys don’t know about you at all, trust me you don’t need to be thinking of a future.
3. He doesn’t like to take pictures with you.
Sometimes people just don’t like how they look in pictures. That may be the case, but if he has a lot of pictures of himself and his friends but refuses to be in pictures with you it’s not because he’s camera shy. He just doesn’t want to take the chance of someone seeing that picture and thinking you two are together. Let’s say he does take a picture with you but it’s never any kissing going on or hugging, it’s just the typical two fingers to the chest pose. Either he doesn’t want people to think you’re his girlfriend or he doesn’t want his real girlfriend to some how see it and accuse him of cheating on her so he tries to make the picture look as friendly as he possibly can.
4. He doesn’t spend any holidays with you.
Some holidays are meant to be spent with family and depending on how long you’ve “been together” you may or may not tag along during those holidays… Valentines Day is not one of those days. That day should be spent with a romantic partner. If your “boyfriend” can’t come around on V-day until really late after the day is over, there is a chance that you are NOT his valentine and he spent that day with the person who is.
5. He doesn’t want you to leave any of your belongings at his house or in his car.
This is pretty much self explanatory. #ontothenext
6. You never hang out during the day.
This is the most obvious statement of them all. If the only time you see your “boyfriend” is late at night or after he’s gone out drinking with his boys you should definitely question that. What kind of relationship is it when you don’t spend any time together other than late at night which is probably mostly sex?
If any of these apply to your “relationship” then you are NOT in a relationship. You are claiming someone that isn’t yours to claim and making yourself look pretty stupid in the process. Take notes and walk away now because eventually it will come out in a very embarrassing matter. Spare yourself the pain.