Growing up I was taught men and women each have their roles in a relationship, it wasn’t because a man is better than a woman or vice versa it was just how they were supposed to support and take care of each other to have balance in the relationship.
I was raised a woman should do most of the cooking, a man should take out the trash, the man takes care of the household with his paycheck, but the woman is the one that maintains the bills and makes sure everything is paid on time. You know stuff like that.
What happened to those roles?
I just feel like society is trying to prove that women are equal to men and by doing so a lot of women aren’t acting like women and instead are trying to wear the pants that men are SUPPOSED to be wearing.
Don’t get me wrong I’m a single mom and as independent as they come, BUT when I’m in a relationship I let my man be the man. That means I cook him dinner, I fix his plate and whatever else is necessary for me to take care of him and make sure he’s happy. I expect him to do the same with his duties as the man in my life. I work, so of course there are times I will voluntarily pay the bill if we go out to eat, or I may offer to do something he would normally do, but that doesn’t take away from him as a man. He knows that I make enough to take care of myself, I don’t have to tell him everyday.
Some of you women are trying so hard to show that you don’t need a man that you are pushing your man away and possibly into the arms of someone else. I’m not saying that’s a valid reason, but if you are with someone that enjoys being a REAL Man ( I said real because a lot of these dudes now aren’t men) then allow him to do just that. He’s just taking care of you as he should. I just don’t get how you can keep yelling “I don’t need a man” then get mad when the dude you are with, but don’t need decides he wants to be with someone else because she’s willing to be what he expects a woman to be!
and vice versa…
If the woman you are with is depending on you to play your role as her man, how are you mad if you decide not to do it and another man takes on your duties? I don’t know about all these other women, but I’m loyal as hell to anybody who is there for me. If you aren’t the person there for me, why should I be loyal to you?
I have more to say about this… but I will make it a part two, I have to get back to work
Good post!… I agree, we are so far removed from the expected roles, and because of that when I meet and woman who plays a womans role I get kinda excited because it’s rare.